Oh Arizona!

So last week, Arizona locked the on-call room door, passionately kissed a woman who wasn’t her beloved Calliope (and I realized she hasn’t called her Calliope in a while, and I love it when she does) and she cheated.
Just to be clear, when I write “Oh Arizona!”, it’s absolutely not in a judgmental way. Yes, she cheated. And yes, cheating is bad and it’s heart-breaking and devastating for the person you betray. But people are flawed. And because someone does a bad thing, it doesn’t mean they’re bad. Besides (and I know it’s no excuse but), cheating is quite common in Shondaland and the Seattle doctors are so not immune to it. Richard and Ellis cheated on their respective spouses. Derek came to Seattle because he found Addison in bed with Mark. He then cheated on her with Meredith (and look at them now having their second child!!!). George cheated on Callie (poor Callie!!) with Izzie. Izzie cheated on Alex with Dennis’ ghost! Owen cheated on Christina. And I know there’s a Ross-and-Rachel-reminiscent debate over this (were they broken up?), but Callie did sleep with Mark when Arizona was in Africa and broke her heart…and they had a beautiful daughter.
I’m not saying what happened with Lauren (by the way, I can’t hate Lauren either. Lauren is cool. And she has Hilarie Burton’s face!!)is some sort of sick payback and now they’re even. No, believe me, it breaks my heart that she did it. I’m devastated for Callie. I hate that she did it. But I don’t hate her. I loved Arizona before and I still love her. I’ve been angry at her before -when she left for Africa without turning back for instance- and I’m angry at her now; but I still love her. I think no one will be more angry at her than herself, except maybe Callie. Shonda knows what she’s doing. She knows how to make you care for her characters as if they were your friends. And sometimes you want to punch them. That means you care.
But this past week, I’ve read lots of stuff that really pissed me off. Like people giving up on Arizona and calling her names. Maybe it upsets me so much because she’s one of my favorite characters and even if I’m not defending her actions, I try to understand where it came from. How for the first time in months she felt attractive, and interesting and desired. But what’s even more upsetting is people saying that this will reflect badly on the LGBT community. When Derek cheated, did it reflect badly on the straight community? Or when George or Owen did? Did it reflect badly on the the Black community that Richard cheated on ailing his wife with Catherine? I don’t understand how to be overly politically correct is a good thing? Yes, LGBT people can cheat too. Because they’re people. Humans. And humans make mistakes.
I really hope this is not the end of Callie and Arizona. Because I adore them together. Because they rock. And because Jessica Capshaw and Sara Ramirez’s chemistry is amazing. I hope they’ll work it out. And I believe they will. But right now, my heart is about to explode and if I know Shonda, I won’t mend its pieces before September. Enjoy the Perfect Storm!

